As many of you know, I've been doing some online dating. Recently, I posted an ad on an online dating site. A guy with the e-mail name "Rapid Rob" replied to my ad. His e-mail was the standard "I'm awesome, and this is why" e-mail, which is great, but to me, physical looks are the first thing I look for. I think physical attraction is very important, especially when online dating.
If I don't like the way you look, then I'm probably not going to like you in person either. Call me superficial, but this is just how I roll. Rapid Rob sent me a picture, and it wasn't that good: he was standing on the beach with his nephew (see my article: The 10 Guys You Meet Online where I list the "Children/Dog Lover Guy"); he was wearing a baseball cap, and it was tough to see what he looked like.
If you have hair, then I want to see it, and if you don't, then I want to see that, too. Show me your face without hats or sunglasses partially covering it. As my friend always says regarding guys' online dating profiles: "I'm going to find out eventually what you look like, so you better show me now. You're not hiding from the paparazzi. You're trying to get dates."
From what I could see of Rapid Rob, I didn't like. I wasn't attracted to him (it happens!), and I never e-mailed him back. Rapid Rob has obviously never been rejected before, because he chose to e-mail me the following:
very surprised i never heard back from you. i mean, it's certainly not like your out of my league physically. if anything, i'd say i'm a little out of yours.
oh well, your loss!
To which I responded:
Well, first of all, you didn't send the best picture. I really can't tell what you like while you're wearing a baseball cap, even when I zoom in. Second of all, consider yourself lucky that you didn't have to slum it or lower your standards with me. You obviously think you're pretty amazing. Good luck with that.
And then RR replied back because he's a clueless asshole:
in other words, you were concerned i might be bald or losing my hair--which i'm not by the way, but the mere fact that you place such a high priority on hair shows how superficial you are. i mean, we're not 21 anymore...
And then, I e-mailed him the following:
This is obviously your first time doing online dating because you're completely clueless to the unspoken rules. Newsflash! Not everybody is going to be attracted to each other. If I ignore your e-mail, then just move on, don't continue to send me e-mails, making snarky comments. Your pic was not good because your face was partially covered by the hat... Duh! Now, go harass some other girl. I don't date vaginas and that's what you're acting like.
Of course, RR had more to say, because he always has to have the last word:
boy, i guess i dodged a bullet with you!....
i'm going to make one point and then i'm done: people tend to pair up with those who are about on their level physically in terms of looks. i pointed out that from a purely objective standpoint, you are NOT out of my league. we're both about a 7.
i see a lot of unrealstic women out there, and i think you are one. i'm handsome, but it's not good enough; you want (and think you can get) a super-handsome, hot man who has all sorts of other wonderful qualities too.
There were a couple more e-mails where I basically told him to go on Match.com, and then I said that there would be women who would think he was the bees' knees, and he had to send one snarky e-mail back about how Match was full of "fat and unattractive" people, and that's probably why I would never go on there. Little does he know that I have a profile on Match. But whatever, let Rapid Rob believe whatever he has to, to help him deal with the fact that there was a woman on this planet that was not attracted to him. Seriously, get the fuck over it! If you can't accept rejection, then you shouldn't be dating.
And, what's up with the name "Rapid Rob"? I told my friend that the name made me think "one minute man". Am I the only one who thinks this way? It's not a good name if you're trying to attract women to date. I also love his comment about how he "dodged a bullet" with me. Umm, I never threw a bullet his way, because I WAS NOT ATTRACTED TO HIM.
Can you imagine going through life, expecting that people you believe to be equal to your "attraction rating" should be automatically attracted to you? It's no wonder why this guy is single at 37. He's a bitter, delusional man who doesn't understand the world of dating or even the laws of attraction. I wish him all the best, and I truly believe that some woman out there will see him and think he's the bees' knees. Fortunately, it wasn't me.
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