Why Love is So Hard to Find

I was on the phone with one of my best friends the other night, and we were discussing love and why it's so incredibly hard to find. It's so difficult to have love in your life, because you have to find the right balance.

How many times have you met somebody, and he was crazy about you, but you didn't feel anything for him? Or, how many times have you met an amazing guy, and you were completely smitten, but he was not? It happens all the time.

There's always somebody getting hurt, getting rejected, or getting taken for granted. And, just hope you aren't the one whose emotions are being trampled, because it's a terrible feeling. As Carrie Bradshaw would say: it's an "exquisite pain". It will leave you torn apart, crying, and yet, strangely, there is a part of you that feels so alive, because it hurts so bad. It's the type of pain that bruises every piece of your being and makes your nerve endings stand at attention.

Mutual love is almost impossible to find. Look at how many of us get our hearts broken, or how many of us break other people's hearts. The ideal relationship is totally balanced: each person loves the other. Maybe that's why it's so amazing when we do find that love.

It's so precious, like a rare gem we are uncovering for the first time. Maybe that's why when we first fall in love, we want to spend every waking moment, basking in the euphoria, in the ecstasy, because we don't want it to end. And there's always the chance that, indeed, it will.

And, if and when that love does dissolve or breaks away, we are devastated, because we never know when we will have it again. It's a scary feeling, that we may not ever find love again. Most likely, we will, but sometimes it's hard to believe. Sometimes, we don't have enough faith in love.

If we opened our eyes, we would notice that the opportunity of love is all around us, and it pops up when we least expect it. It's a flower that only blooms when it's not being watched. Love comes when we aren't searching for it; and no matter how much we want it, there's no way to bring it into our lives any sooner than it appears.

The best thing to do is to enjoy your life, surround yourself with amazing people, and try to remain positive. Once you are truly happy with yourself, then others will notice, and they will be attracted to you. Love can only enter your life if you love yourself first.