A Drug Affair

After a long hiatus, I'm back. Things sucked for what seemed like an eternity (fuck!), but I'm back and feeling stronger than ever, blah, blah blah. But enough about me let's talk about something more interesting, shall we!

What does everybody think of Cat Marnell? If you're not familiar with her, she was the beauty editor for xoJane, who recently left because she is a drug addict. She's candid about her addiction. Her articles for xoJane were beauty product reviews interspersed with druggie anecdotes. She has a love affair with drugs (as all addicts do), and she writes about that lust in a stream of consciousness, throwing up her words onto her computer screen as quickly as she can type. Her writing is frenetic, honest, and raw.

I personally like her writing: She's a solid writer with a strong, albeit, controversial voice. She's interesting. She's polarizing. And she never pretends to be anybody she's not. Love her or hate her, she is an enigmatic personality. 

Read her latest Vice article.

"It’s 2012 in Manhattan, the island of cell phones and no clocks. Of dead Blackberry batteries, New Museums, old money—trust funds, angel dust funds, acid rains, and dead brains. Ritalin kids are generic adults living on vampire schedules. The Lost Boys soundtrack is always playing at the Dream Hotel and everyone’s forgotten their iPhone chargers: Yo, what time is it?"

My favorite movie, Boogie Nights, has a quote that makes me think of Cat's writing persona.

"When I close my eyes, I see this thing, a sign, I see this name in bright blue neon lights with a purple outline. And this name is so bright and so sharp that the sign - it just blows up because the name is so powerful..."

So, how does everybody feel about her? Do you love or hate her writing?

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Darkest Before the Dawn

Some moments in life are easier than others. I'm going through one of those really tough times. I'm trying to figure out what the next chapter of my life will bring. It's always darkest before the dawn. I know whatever will become of this will make me stronger in the end.

Very True

Dating Advice

I'm gaining a lot of new ideas lately about dating and relationships. I'm seeing things from different perspectives, and I'm analyzing all the forms of communication that men and women use during the dating phase. I'm observing how the courting process works in the 21st century and how men and women's roles have changed throughout the decades.

I have spent over 15 years dating, and I have a tremendous amount of experience: I've met many men, had many heartbreaks, and have had great loves. I have a lot of knowledge to share, and I hope to someday help as many women as I can. My goals are set high right now to reach a large scale audience. The funny thing about giving advice is it's easier to listen to other people's advice than know what is right in your personal situation.

Finding love can be one of the most difficult experiences: Because love can be elusive; love can tear your heart out; love can appear when you are the least ready for it; love can be terrifying and beautiful all at the same time.

My dating life in years past was a roller coaster. I never knew what would happen next. I always wanted to find the man who was right for me, and I never could. I cried my share of tears. I hope that my difficult experiences can help somebody out there.

I want to help broken-hearted women to heal. I want to let women who cry every night in loneliness that there is light through the darkness. I want to teach women how to date without tearing their hair out. I want to show women that they never have to settle. I want to help women see how amazing they are with or without a man.

Burnt Out from Dating?

Take a break from it. Give yourself a few months to just enjoy your life guy-free without trying to meet somebody. It will be a liberating experience. Pamper yourself. Buy yourself some new clothes, sexy heels, or lingerie to feel good.

Buy some new music. Plan a brunch outing every month with some girlfriends. Take some time out for you. Get in touch with what makes you truly happy. Recharging the dating batteries is one of the best things you can do when you're sick of dating and can't meet anybody decent.

True Blood's Joe Manganiello

Holy hotness.


(Via Oh No They Didn't)

The Beauty in Appreciation

I have a girlfriend. She's in her 30s, has had several tumultuous relationships, has been deeply hurt in the past, has dated her share of losers, alcoholics, moochers, narcissistic guys who didn't care about her feelings; and through it all, she believed that one day she would find a fantastic man. And, she did. When we discussed this new man in her life, I remember something in the conversation that really resonated with me: She said "If I had met him anytime earlier in my life than I did, I wouldn't have appreciated him as much as I do now.

I met somebody recently. I am constantly amazed by how wonderful he is and how well we click together. I know exactly what my girlfriend was talking about. I don't think I could possibly have appreciated him years ago than I do right now. It's as if I had to go through all the bullshit to get to where I am today, to feel what I do for him, to recognize how incredible he is. All I can be is grateful that I found somebody at the exact right time in my life. They say timing is everything, and it is.