Are You Having a Hard Time Meeting Guys?

It's tough to meet quality men. The bars and clubs are usually full of drunken idiots who only care about picking up girls and sleeping with them. Bars and clubs are not the best places to find a good man. Take this from somebody who knows. I used to meet men in bars and clubs, and I never had good experiences. They weren't bad men; they were just not ready to settle down or even get to know somebody long enough to know if they really liked her. They were all about the party and chasing women. You don't want this guy.

If you are having a hard time meeting men, then try going to different places. If you have friends who are hosting an intimate party: throw on a sexy skirt and heels; a little mascara and lip gloss; and prepare to flirt with a cute guy or two. Parties are an excellent way to meet people, but in a less sexually charged environment as a club or a bar. The best parties to meet eligible men are dinner parties or small gatherings . The worst parties are parties that have the word "keg" or "toga required" included somewhere in the evite. If you are seeking out an adult man to date, then stay away from parties that include drinking games or people doing multiple shots.

Another fantastic way to meet men is to go to different events with your girlfriend. There are so many wonderful, cultural things to do; you just have to know how to find them. Go online or look through the newspaper for local events at museums, theatres, art galleries, or even restaurants. These events are usually good opportunities to meet well-rounded, intelligent men. There are a lot of guys out there who are looking for exactly what you are, but he can't seem to find the right girl. Some museums put together weekly singles nights. You and your girlfriend can dress up in flirty little black dresses and mingle with men in front of priceless pieces of art. Many restaurants feature wine tastings and special dinners. These are perfect nights to taste some wine, delicious food, and talk to a great guy who has been searching for a woman who will appreciate the finer things in life.

Talk to your friends. Ask them if they know of anyone you can meet. Sometimes women forget about that one guy who they've been friends with forever, but they just aren't attracted to him. Maybe your friend's boyfriend has some cute friends. Ask some of your best girlfriends if they'd like to double date. It's a lot easier and more fun if you go on a double date than a dreaded blind date. Pick some fun things to do: miniature golfing, bowling, or billiards. Keep the date casual and think of it as a night with friends, not a date with some guy you barely know.

The more you try out new places and different activities, the more likely you will meet a great guy. It's also always good to keep yourself active and your mind stimulated. Try not to dwell on not having met a guy yet; focus on your happiness and your freedom. This is your time to do whatever you would like to do. When you're 45 and married with children, you will look back at this time and think, "I wish I had done more when I was single!"

A Single Girl's Guide to Halloween

"Clothes make a statement. Costumes tell a story."
-- Mason Coole

As the ghouls creep out of the shadows and the witches fly past the golden autumn moon, single men and women of all ages come out to mingle in disguise. It's a great chance to be somebody else for the night. For the ladies, it's the perfect chance to show off your naughty side. Go to any Halloween party, and you will see scantily clad fairies, bunnies, vampires, Greek goddesses, cops, and even your beloved fairy tale characters from childhood. Halloween is about having fun, meeting new people, and being somebody else for the night. It's an entire evening of being with your friends and role-playing while you flirt with men.

The key to having a great Halloween as a single girl is to choose your costume and party carefully. Give yourself at least a month to search out the perfect costume. Before you purchase it, show it to one of your girlfriends. She will tell you if it's the one for you or not. There's nothing worse than seeing a girl pouring out of her costume in all the wrong places. Most costumes run small, so if you can't try it on because you are buying it online, then make sure you give yourself plenty of time to return it, or you buy 2 costumes just in case one doesn't fit. However, if you're a size 6, disregard what I just said...you lucky bitch. I am, like most of the women out there, not a size 6, so I've had problems with fitting into costumes. I tried on one vacuum sealed, sexy FBI agent costume, and I couldn't even get the crotch to snap! I had to buy a pair of black latex hot pants to put over it. A few years ago, I came across these god forsaken hot pants, and I actually hesitated throwing them out. Where the hell did I think I was going to wear these again??!! Unless I was going to start frequenting underground goth clubs, my latex hot pants were not going to get much use.

Now that you have the perfect costume, your next big decision is crucial: Which parties will you be attending and how many? This choice can make or break your Halloween and your chance of getting the phone number of some hot stud in a Dracula cape. Talk to your girlfriends about all your options. If there's a party that one of them really wants to attend, then compromise. Tell her you will go to her party if she goes to your chosen party. Find out the locations of all the parties you want to go will be and how late they will be going on. Say you decide on 3 parties, check out the one you think will be the lamest first. Show up, have a few drinks, and if it doesn't get any better in an hour, 1/2 hour if you really hate it, then leave and go to your next party. If your choice Halloween party is at a club, then be prepared to spend most of the night there. Otherwise, you're blowing a lot of money on Halloween tickets and not taking full advantage. If you know of a great party, and you know it will be going on late, then go to that one after the club. However, the later a party goes, the sloppier the guys will be, so be prepared to be unimpressed with the talent there. Batman may have been looking pretty good at 11 PM, but it's 2:00, and he's slurring his words and his breath reeks of cheap shots of tequila and Natty Light; he's not so hot now.

Okay, so now you have the costume and the parties all worked out, so what else is there? Be a lady and don't drink so much that you are a "hallowed", albeit a hot, mess. Nobody wants to see a sexy Alice in Wonderland falling into a "rabbit hole" or a naughty Snow White who's had too much of the "poison apple". Have a few drinks, but pace yourself. If you want to party hop, then you will need all the endurance you can get. In between drinks, have a Red Bull or a glass of water. This will keep up your energy. The guys you want to attract are not into drunken disasters. You will have more fun if you are not completely obliterated. Not to mention, you'll give off a better first impression when talking to a cute guy.

Ladies, have a fabulous Halloween and be as wicked and naughty as you want to be. It's your night for the sexy girl to come out and play. She only comes out once a year, so have fun and meet lots of guys, even if they are in unfortunately misguided costumes. Remember, be on your toes or your platform heels,you never know when you'll meet your Prince Charming...or at the very least some hot guy dressed as Prince Charming who wants your number ;-)