Guys. We love them one minute. We can't stand them the next. They will drive us crazy if we let them because they think on a completely different level from us. Talk to any woman, and they will agree. It's unbelievable that we can even maintain long term relationships with them. My girlfriend said it best when she was talking about her three year relationship: "I am raising a 31 year-old man." They really are like little children. Sometimes I have fights with my guy, and I just look at him like, "Are you serious right now??" Some of the things that come out of his mouth are ridiculous, and I can't believe this is actually the way he thinks. He thinks like a guy. I usually shake my head in disgust and think, "Thank God, I'm a woman."
So, why do men get on our nerves so much? Well, first of all, they have the mentality of 5 year-old boys: they whine, need extra attention when they're sick, and sometimes they treat us like their mean mommies when we get angry with them or tell them they are wrong. Second, they aren't as emotional as we are, so a lot of times when you try to tell them that their actions hurt you in some way, they have no idea why or how come you're so sensitive. Not to mention, they make dumb, selfish choices: how many times has your guy not called you when he should have or gone out with his friends even though you wanted to spend some time with him?
It takes a strong woman to be with a man. I see so many women who just allow bad behavior from their men, and it is sickening. I know of a woman who is "fine" with her new husband coming home at all hours of the night because he is out drinking with his friends. What???!!! How is she okay with this?? The way I see it is if you are in a relationship with a man, then he should be with you, not drinking until 4 or 5 in the morning with his buddies. Ladies, stick up for yourselves! Don't let these men walk all over you. Because if they think you're weak, then they will take advantage of you. It's a lonely existence when you're living with or married to a man and he's coming home at all hours of the night because he wants to be "just one of the guys". Remember, he made a choice to be with you. He can either be with you and have a solid, healthy relationship or be single and have all the free time to be a drunken idiot with his friends. You can't let him have both. He cannot have his cake and eat it too. It pains me to hear about women who just let their men come and go as they please. I'm not saying you should be the warden of the relationship. However, you shouldn't be in bed alone, waiting up for some jerk who cares more about drinking and hanging out with his buddies than he does for you and your happiness. He had time to be single before he met you. Now that he's met you, he should be done with all that.
How do we keep men from driving us crazy? It's tough. I think the key is to be the best woman you are capable of being: keep yourself healthy and happy; pamper yourself; engage in activities that you are passionate; and always stay independent. If you remain a happy and empowered woman, then you will be able to take on anything, especially when it comes to dealing with a man and their stupidity. A man will respect a strong-willed woman. Don't be afraid to stand up for yourself. Don't let a man take advantage of or manipulate you. Always remember: you don't need a guy in your life; you just choose to have one. You don't need a man to complete you because you are already COMPLETE.
