Looking

We spend our lives looking for connections. We seek friends, lovers, husbands, wives to fill our lives with warmth, love and affection. Our goal is to bond with these people; to feel as if somebody understands us, listens to our stories, comforts us, and cares what happens to us. There is something so wonderful about meeting somebody for the first time and experiencing that.

The fascinating part is it always happen when you least expect it. You could meet twenty people in one night and not bond with any of them; but you walk into a cafe one morning and meet the person who will become one of your closest friends. Connections occur effortlessly. They can never be forced. In fact, the moment we try to force these relationships, they disintegrate. Further proof that nothing needs to be pushed. It either is, or it isn't. We could push ourselves on to somebody, and desperately try to be in their lives, but they would most likely run the other way.

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If these relationships are going to form, they will do so naturally. There is no reason to push or force them. The connection is either there, or it's not. We must have faith that these special connections will find us. These people will flow into our lives easily with no worry, no fear, and no anxiety. Relationships will manifest. And we have no control over when and how they do. It can be a hard lesson for us. It is difficult to relinquish control, to surrender to destiny. But what choice do we have?

We have to learn to accept not knowing what will happen next in the tapestry of our lives. We need to enjoy our lives regardless of whether or not significant people walk into them. And we must fill those times that are void of intimate strings to our beloveds with our own inner happiness and contentment.

Think of the last connection you made with somebody. How did that person affect your life? What made the connection so special?

Great Weekend

I took off Friday to pick up my fabulous girlfriend, who lives in LA, from the airport. It was so wonderful to see her. I haven't seen her since she left which was about a year and a half ago. I miss her so much. I picked her up, and I took her back to my apartment, so she could meet my lovable cat, Peter. She said he was great because he acted like a dog, not a cat. He's a cat-dog. He doesn't have that bad feline attitude like most. He's just a cool guy who likes a lot of attention. She gave him lots of love and affection, and Peter was thrilled to have her around.

My friend and I had a great day together: window shopping on Newbury Street, having a lovely lunch alfresco, and catching up, since we haven't seen each other in a while. It was nice spending the day with her. She's such a wonderful person, and I know that she will remain a good friend for life. There are very few people you meet that you can say that about, but she is definitely one of them.

Saturday, J and I went to sign the lease on our brand, new apartment outside of the city. My real estate friend found it for us, and it's everything we are looking for. I'm really excited about it; not only, will we be paying less, it's also bigger than our current place. It's also very close to the subway, so I'm quite happy about that. Commuting should be a breeze.

Today, I am relaxing at home, waiting to meet up with my girlfriend. She had a wedding last night, so I know she's probably tired and hung over. I don't expect to hear from her until around 1pm or 2pm when she finally wakes up from her stupor. Later, J and I will take her to the airport. I'm sad to see her go. It was so hard to see her go the first time when she moved away from Boston. I cried for a week. I just want to see her happy. I hope she finds everything she is searching for in LA. I miss her terribly, but if this is where she needs to be at this point in her life, then I wish her nothing but the best.

Girlfriends

This year, I have been very fortunate to make some new friends. One, I met through work. She has been so wonderful showing me the ropes and career counseling me every step of the way. She has even given me great relationship advice when things weren’t going so well with my boyfriend. I am so lucky to have met her, and she feels as if she’s been one of my girlfriends for years. Another one, I met because she is my boyfriend’s friend’s girlfriend. She is a beautiful person, and I love hanging out with her. Also, she has an amazing knack for interior decorating. I’m so jealous! Decorating does not come naturally to me, so when I see people who could make a cardboard box look good, then I’m impressed.

Over the years, I’ve had many friendships, some of them wonderful and others not so great. In fact, some of the women were downright insane. I’m not saying it in that catty “oh, that girl’s crazy” kind of way; these women were batshit crazy. The girlfriends I have now are a small, but wonderful group of people. They are successful; two of them own their own business, and the rest have good careers. Most of them are in relationships. A couple of them are single and looking for the right guy. All my girls are fabulous and very different from one another. They’re all beautiful people inside and out. Friends should add something to your life. They are the ones you call when times are tough, and you are the one they call when they need you the most. Now, that I’m in my 30’s, I have discovered that it’s not about how many friends you have, but who your friends are. If you have one amazing friend, then that beats 10 bad ones any day.