One Thing

All of my friends seem to come to me for love advice. It's always been this way. I think I give good advice. Well, I hope so anyway. But, I've been thinking about this lately. Why do I give good advice on love and relationships, considering my love life isn't what you would call successful? Why take advice from me, a single girl still looking for a great guy to share my life with?

I think it's because I've dated so much, gotten my heart broken so many times, felt intense love and pain, and watched my own relationship deteriorate within the course of a few years and lose my best friend in the process. I've been there, through all of it: I've had a countless number of bad dates, e-mailed and chatted with 100s of guys only to never talk to them again, wasted hours online on various dating websites, and even broken out of my shell around guys only to get rejected.

Dating can suck. It's not easy.

I give good advice because I know how bad it can be. I give good advice because when you're crying so much that your eyes ache, I've cried those tears, too. I give good advice because when you've spent your Saturday nights alone, wishing you had somebody there next to you, I've been there, too. But, I also give good advice because I like helping women find the answers which they are seeking and providing them with a shimmer of solace during difficult times.

One thing I do want to add is: I never wanted to be Carrie Bradshaw. My life doesn't revolve around couture, Cosmos, and cock. To tell you otherwise, I would be lying. My life isn't glamorous. Dating isn't glamorous. What I experience on a daily basis is real life. I spend many nights in the quiet with my own thoughts and emotions.

My best friend calls these introspective times of our lives as "waiting in the mezzanine", as you watch the world and observe the people in it. Somebody commented that I'm a "lonely, single girl", but I'm not lonely. I've gone through lonely periods, sure. At the moment, I am content. My life is good, with or without a man in it. And I'm truly happy with the way my life is headed and the wonderful people I have filled it with.